I have a friend I've known since high school. We had a habit of hanging out and then not talking to each other for months on end. But when we do talk, it's like we've talked every day.
Anyway she had a boyfriend and they were in a casual relationship. He was interested in me and she was cool with that. Now, months later, I'm crashing at their place. Now she's no longer cool with it, so he and I stopped messing around.
Recently they fought and broke up. She asked me not to sleep with him but I've developed feelings for him. I've never felt this way about anyone. I'm 23 and have never gotten past the "you're cute, let's date" point in a relationship.
It's different with him. He's all I can think about and he makes me feel special and wanted. I have no idea if it would be just sex for him, but the things he says and does make me think he likes me for more.
I'm super awkward and don't even know where to begin. I don't want to hurt my friend, but I owe it to myself to see where things go. I saw him today and things got a bit handsy.
I know someone's going to end up getting hurt, and mostly I don't want that person to be me. What do I do?
Hailey, this man can't be the decider in the situation because he's a young guy with two women fighting over him. It would be as if he's licking two ice cream cones, trying to decide which flavor he likes better. What young guy, not in love with either of you, would turn that down?
You've decided you are going for him regardless of what your girlfriend thinks. Okay, but it's not nice to eat fries off someone else's plate without permission.
Show your girlfriend your letter and say, "I don't know what he's telling you, but this is what is going on between the two of us."
Wayne & Tamara