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   A Second Opinion

   Diane Sollee's
   Coalition For Marriage, Family and Couples Education

"We are now entering a new era--a Marriage Renaissance--fueled by powerful new research & understanding about how to make marriage work."
Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education

   Under the kitchen sink in Wayne and Tamara's house there are three products which have been sold for decades. The dish detergent says NEW, the laundry soap says NEW AND IMPROVED, and the stain remover says GREAT NEW FORMULA.

   Procter & Gamble knows that the word "new" sells products, especially products which have been around for years. So it is with the multibillion dollar relationship business.

   Since the 1940s, popular magazines and books in the United States have offered a huge amount of psychological and counseling advice without statistical proof of any positive impact on the U.S. rate of divorce.

   What do Wayne and Tamara Mitchell say about the "powerful new research" promoted by Diane Sollee and the Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education? "New" is their way of running away from past claims. "New" is their way of selling a new generation on old claims.

   Science requires that research prove itself by predicting future observations.

   But the researchers on marriage have never--ever--been able to do this. They failed to predict the post-war baby boom, and the rise of divorce and teenage single pregnancy in the 1960s and 1970s. They failed to predict the current leveling off of the divorce rate, the increased age at which couples now marry, and the divergence in the divorce rate between affluent and poor couples.


  "In College… I began to learn a little about how science works…  how rigorous the standards of evidence must be…  how our biases can color our interpretation of the evidence, how belief systems widely supported by the political, religious and academic hierarchies often turn out to be not just slightly in error but grotesquely wrong…"
    —Carl Sagan, The Demon-Haunted World

 

  The "powerful new research" lacks the predictive power science requires as evidence.

   Indeed, groups like the Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education may be actively undermining marriage. By claiming there is a fix for relationships, they are encouraging couples with problems to go ahead and marry. After all, since there is a fix for relationships, problems are not warning signs. They are simply things to be "worked on."

   When an engineer makes a mistake and a building collapses, there are extremely serious legal and financial consequences. People who use the trappings of science to claim expert knowledge about relationships engage in human engineering. When their advice fails and your relationship collapses, there are no more consequences to them than there are for a tarot card reader or your sister-in-law.

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• Diane Sollee is the founder and spokesperson of the advocacy and lobbying group, Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education.

• Quote at left from a press release promoting the June 2003 conference of the Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couples Education in Reno, Nevada.